Eugene Lee Yang of The Try Guys comes out as gay in his original, deeply personal music video, featuring music by ODESZA.
In order to know where you’re going, you must know where you began. As we celebrate the 50th anniversary of the momentous event, the Stonewall Riots, many in the LGBTQ community are taking this as a time of reflection to teach our younger generations why they have the liberties they have today. But the fight is not over. The LGBTQ community is still fighting to receive basic rights in this world. Just in time for the anniversary, First Run Features is announcing their theatrical re-release of Before Stonewall: The Making of a Gay and Lesbian Community, on June 21st.
Produced by Robert Rosenberg, John Scagliotti and Greta Schiller, the film celebrates the moment in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969 when the police raided the Stonewall Inn, a gay bar in New York City's Greenwich Village. That occurrence lead to a three-night standoff, including riots, by the gay community, birthing the start of the gay and lesbian liberation movement. While recognizing the historic moment, the film offers the viewers a glimpse of how life was before the iconic experience. As shared by the filmmakers, Before Stonewall pries open the closet door, setting free the dramatic story of the sometimes horrifying public and private existences experienced by LGBT Americans since the early 1900's. Revealing and often humorous, this widely acclaimed film relives the emotionally-charged sparking of today's gay rights movement, from the events that led to the fevered 1969 riots to many other milestones in the brave fight for acceptance.* Schiller also celebrates the 35th anniversary of the film’s original release. She remembers the process and the responsibility she had to the community to do this film justice. “This was my first foray into feature filmmaking. As the first film on an LGBT topic to receive funding from Public Television, we had an enormous responsibility to get it right – and a lot of peer pressure from people around the country who wanted to tell their stories,” expressed Schiller. “Weaving these stories into the social and political tenor of each decade, with my point of view emerging from the material, and the mix of humor and pathos, music and archive footage, has shaped my directorial style ever since. It also honed my focus as a young woman documentarian on making films that map the journeys of ordinary people, whose lives both impacted and were impacted by historical forces. When we set out to make this film, I had no inkling of the meaning it would have around the world.”
Co/Director and Producer, Robert Rosenberg, an independent filmmaker and activist in the LGBTQ including being a Founding Director of the acclaimed Miami Gay & Lesbian Film Festival and the Coral Gables Art Cinema understood the challenge in from of him - breathing life into an already iconic film. “It was a big, sprawling, challenging film to make, and it really was a sort of a ‘Gay History 101’ in terms of any onscreen approach,” said Rosenberg. “No one had dared to or really been able to do this before, though we were of course building on the work of pioneering scholars and community activists who were already documenting LGBT stories and digging into the past. Making ‘Before Stonewall’ for me was also such an incredible and life-changing experience as a younger gay man. I got to hear, face-to-face, the stories of so many older men and women, in a way I would not have without our film project, their tales of heroism, resistance, love and struggle in very different times.”
Quintessential author, Rita Mae Brown, narrates the film. Of those involved with the documentary, Brown is the quintessential individual of “Beyond Stonewall,” coming out in the 1960s and truly experiencing the many stories told in this documentary. Brown shared her experience in being a part of the process and living during such a significant era. “Quote from Brown.”
In restoring the film, The 16mm negative was scanned and digitized at Periscope Films in Los Angeles. The file was then color corrected at Edition Salzgeber in Berlin, who created the ProRes and DCP. Director Greta Schiller supervised the process and approved the new ProRes and DCP. “Quote about the process of restoration.”
When it comes down to it, the amazing moments of this film were the stories of the individuals who lived during that time. featuring interviews Pioneering cultural figures and activists including Audre Lorde, Allen Ginsberg, Harry Hay, Richard Bruce Nugent, Frank Kameny and Barbara Gittings, shared their words and feelings.
Stonewall was a moment in the making. Over three nights, lives were changed and the movement would never be the same. It was a special moment the community was waiting for. A moment we’ll celebrate this year, another 50 years and many generations to come.
Professional ballet dancer John Lam has a daily juggling act balance his career, marriage and family. A child of Vietnam immigrants, as Lam grew older he realized that being public about his life was the best way of showing people that when it comes to family, we are all the same. He took a moment to talk with PRIDE & Equality about his goals.
You have the cutest boys! Was family always in the plan or was career your focus?
Kids was always in the plan of creating our family, but we didn’t think it would go so smoothly via IVF and was blessed with such a smooth experience going through the process twice.
Being a professional dancer has and is my bread and butter of who I am as a human being. I think that while I was in my young twenties and seeing older dancers have kids to create a family, gave me the assurance that this was something that I wanted to do in the future as I grew up with an amazing childhood in my eyes, and having siblings and many cousins was apart of my teenage growing phase. Having the opportunity to create a family that is ours through IVF was and is still an incredible and huge task to take. I am so grateful for our two boys which helps me deepen my artistry in roles I take on.
Where did your inspiration for dance come from?
I think my inspiration for dance was how I listened to the music, and how my body would just react to what the music was playing. I remember as a small little child that I would listen to these epic tracks of classical music that I had really no clue what they were, but creating dances in my mind and just letting my spirit be. I would dance in my elementary classrooms and middle school years, not know what I was doing, and not caring what others would think, dancing for me was and is like a sacred drug that I have to take in order to feel zen.
Where has dance taken you?
Dance has taken me to many places and have experienced so much. While the clock is ticking, I’ve been very lucky to travel and dance iconic ballet roles that has given me much fulfillment as an artist. I grew up in the projects of San Rafael CA, with no artistic background from my family, and somehow dance found me, and I took a chance and went with it. Landing full ride scholarships to schools, and then being offered my first contract with Boston Ballet prior to graduating high school. I hold now a Principal Dancer contract with Boston Ballet and have been with the company for 17 years. Its half of my life so far, and I have learned to be loyal and trust the process of being a dancer. Its been tough, it is tough, sustaining on a high level, and continuing to inspire oneself is tough. But so far I have made dance be and allowed it to grow.
How did you and John meet?
I met John R. my future husband, in the South End in Boston, walking across a crosswalk dropping my laundry while he stopped and let me pass. Sitting outside waiting for my laundry to be dried, he drove up, pulled over, and sat next to me and introduced himself. He had balls to just come up and say hi, but the rest is history. 9 years and counting, married and creating a family, I am and will forever be grateful for John R taking a chance with me.
Many would keep their personal life to themselves. Why is it important for the public to see the dynamic of your family?
I think that it is important if one has the cache and ability to share their makeup of their lives if one is willing to share. I wish that I had a couple that was so different in age, culture, profession, but able to come together and create a life together, would have been inspiring as a teen to look up too. I hope that by sharing and giving a transparent idea of what our family is made up of, it will allow others to see and have a perspective of what is possible and what love is. I think sharing our stories, allows others to look at themselves and see what inspires them to take the plunge in creating a family, or go on a date, and or know that there are married couples out there.
What does the future hold for you both personally and professionally?
An epic question, which I cannot foresee the future. Thankfully, I have an incredible husband, that is my teammate, and two kids to care for at the same time, gives me to the chance to figure what the next steps can be. Personally, I am hoping that I just am the best father to my kids and loving and caring husband. Professionally, I know that I can’t dance forever, so enjoying every moment on stage and keeping an open heart to what the possibilities can be in the future.
Follow John on social media @johndilam and @Ruggierilamfamily.
A call went out this year after spending an evening with youth in the LGBTQ community for National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day. I discovered that although there seems to be a fractured community here in New Mexico, the gap is even deeper when it comes to people of color. They feel they don’t have a voice or opportunities to express it. While I offered everyone in the room the opportunity to share their stories, no one took the opportunity. So, the direction changed During this time I was approached by StormMiguel Florez, a filmmaker, who remembered his moment in 1987 - coming out as lesbian before transitioning. This Hispanic, Albuquerque native took those memories, a distinct sound, and created a documentary to tell his story. The Whistle “is a documentary film that will tell the story of a secret code created by and shared among young lesbians in 1970s & 80s Albuquerque as a means of self-identification and finding community.” Florez sat down with me to talk about the moment he discovered “The Whistle” and what he has witnessed during his time in New Mexico.
What do you remember most about that time when you came out - the good and the bad?
I am a queer trans man and identified as a lesbian when I came out at age 15 in 1987. The hard part about coming out in 1987 was the total lack of positive representation of LGBT people in the media, so people didn’t have a reference point for us, besides what they learned in church and this inherent “knowledge” that LGBT people were sad, lonely, disturbed sinners who lived in the shadows. This meant that there was a lot of shame and fear around coming out even to ourselves, but I know that is still the case for many people coming out today. Coming out to my parents was hard. My mother was a devout Catholic, but I never heard her talk about God or sin, we just went to Church every Sunday, and Catechism during summer break when we were kids, and we were expected to fulfill the sacraments. When I came out to my parents, she used words like “evil” and “sin” and told me that I was going to change. This made me feel really awful and really afraid. She grounded me for what seemed like the longest time, she made me go to a psychologist, and tried to make me go to modeling school. The psychologist was surprisingly cool and told me that I didn’t need to change unless I wanted to and that if I wanted to, it should only be for myself. The modeling school took one look at my butchy teenaged self and told my mother and I that they offered acting classes. My mother never spoke of modeling school again. It was a very hard time for both of us. I know she had a lot of shame around me being gay and I don’t think she every really talked about it to anyone. She came around over the years, which I think made things a lot easier for both of us.
The lack of general awareness or reference for us in the Southwest had it’s upside. People didn’t necessarily know what they were seeing when they saw us, especially us lesbians, so we were able to duck under the radar a lot of the time. That meant we were able to be out in public with each other in groups, and no one would bother us. Either we were intimidating, or people just didn’t know what they were seeing. That said, we were bullied in school and many of us didn’t graduate high school or barely graduated because of bullying and not feeling like we could really be ourselves at school. Many of my friends were kicked out of their homes when their parents found out they were gay, so it was by no means perfect, and in fact there were a lot of hard times. But we got a lot of support from each other.
The best part about coming out as a lesbian at that time was the community. There were so many of us in Albuquerque! We were at every high school - especially from the west side up to Del Norte high school. And we would all party together and hang out at each others’ houses, and go to each others softball, basketball, and soccer games. And when we wanted to confirm that some mullet sporting girl that we had never seen before was gay, we would use this whistle. The whistle was known by what seemed to be most young lesbians in Albuquerque - especially Latina lesbians. When we used the whistle to spot someone, if they were one of us, they would whistle back or look up (maybe thinking it was their friends trying to get their attention) and give what was often a shy, but happy little nod.
I have a lot of great memories of coming out at the time and wouldn’t change it for anything.
What was New Mexico (Albuquerque) like for a person of color in the LGBTQ community?
That’s an interesting question because of the particular makeup of our ethnicity and race in this state. I believe there is a higher percentage of Latinx (or Hispanic) people in New Mexico than any other race/ethnicity. So for Latinx people, I think it’s a lot easier for us than other people of color, because we see ourselves represented more and probably have more access than other people of color do in this state. So on that front, being a young Latinx butch lesbian, I always felt like my masculinity was the thing that people noticed about me and the thing I was targeted and harassed about - not my race/ethnicity.
Despite there being more Latinx people in New Mexico, the people who owned the businesses and had the wealth and means of production were and probably still are overwhelmingly white. When you look back at the old Common Ground or Out (New Mexico) magazines that were being published in the 80s and 90s, the writers, the advertisers, the story subjects were mostly white. The owners of the bars were mostly, if not all white. The owners of the local lesbian feminist bookstore, Full Circle Books, who were wonderful, supportive women, were white. I recently spoke with a straight, cis, white elder from Albuquerque when I was doing research for this film and she used the phrase “the Hispanic people, the Native, people, and the American (white) people” when referring to a demographic of people that go to a particular establishment. She was well meaning, but it verified so much of what many of us people of color already know, that even in a place like Albuquerque, many white people think that people of color are unAmerican or not American. This makes it hard for people of color in general to even see ourselves in leadership roles, as business owners, or as people who are truly welcome wherever we go. Add being LGBTQ and we feel that within our own families and communities.
When was the first time you heard about The Whistle?
The first time I heard about the whistle was from the person who brought me out. She told me about it and might have tried to teach me. It was really hard to learn. It’s a super high-pitched sound made by sucking in. Many describe it as being like a dog whistle because it’s high-pitched and people only tend to hear it if they are tuned in to it. That made it very easy to use the whistle in a large crowd without anyone even noticing or hearing it. Anyway, I was obsessed with learning it and practiced and practiced until I finally got it. I think I annoyed all my friends who already knew it with how excited I was. I was like a little excited puppy.
There is a large Hispanic presence in this documentary. Did you seem to notice bullying for being both Hispanic and gay or was it one-sided?
To me, the bullying felt like it was specifically around being gay. Two of my biggest bullies were closeted Latina lesbians. I ran into one of them years later at a Melissa Etheridge concert.
You have some amazing interviews. What was this experience like creating this documentary?
It was a huge privilege to get to make this documentary. I was really nervous approaching participants as a trans man who they might not remember, or didn’t even know at the time. I was worried that they would not trust sharing their stories with this random dude. But everyone was so wonderful and warm and really shared so much of themselves. One participant, Gloria Vigil, started doing research on her own that ended up really helping to shape the film. Gloria and I met on Facebook when I was putting the word out about the project. She said she had some stories and after we spoke on the phone, she agreed to an interview. During her interview, I really saw how her generation (she’s about ten years older than I am) and those who came before her really shaped my experience coming out as a teen. The language and signals, the codes, the way she really cherished what was happening for her even at the time, those things were translated directly to me without ever having met her and her peers before. It confirmed how important our LGBTQ history is and how it shapes us and paves the way for us to get to be who we are.
What do you want viewers to take away from this documentary?
I want people to know about this really unique piece of Southwest LGBTQ history. I want people who were living these stories to see themselves reflected and celebrated. I want LGBTQ youth in the region to know who came before them. I want non-LGBTQ people to see how amazing and resourceful and resilient, and most importantly, how human we are. I want more LGBTQ people in the region to be inspired to research and document stories from their own communities.
The Whistle is supported in part by NALAC (the National Association of Latino Arts and Cultures), The San Francisco Arts Commission/Independent Artists Commission, and The Horizons Foundation. Learn more at www.stormflorez.com/the-whistle.html
Fifty years ago history was made. This year we celebrate the night of the Stonewall Riots, which catapulted the LGBTQ movement. Many in the community know of this moment in history. Others are learning the story for the first time. Greta Schiller and the team behind the restored documentary, Beyond Stonewall, talk about life for the LGBTQ community before the stone was thrown in front of that landmark bar.
We celebrate another year of amazing role models in the community. The Vincent R. Johnson Models of Hope Award will honor Neil Macernie of Albuquerque Pride, Renato Estacio-Burdick of Twist and Sidewinders, Jax Sugars of TeeN’MPower and our Community Organization honoree, Casa Q.
We also interviewed StormMiguel Florez, director of the documentary, The Whistle, exploring the lesbian community at Del Norte High School during the 80s and a special call that let others know they’re not alone.
Happy Pride everyone. Be kind to each other and praise your history.
Teresa Maria Robinson-Ewers, Editor-in-Chief
PRIDE & Equality Magazine
PRIDE & Equality celebrates another year of Models of Hope. The Vincent R. Johnson Models of Hope Award honors individuals and organizations making a difference, being seen as role models in the community. This award has created a roster of quality honorees over the past twelve years and we are honored to have this year’s nominees join the lineup. Take a look at who we will be honoring at a special brunch on August 25th.
Community Honoree, Neil Macernie, Albuquerque Pride
If you haven’t heard the name Neil Macernie in the LGBTQ community, you are in for a treat. Neil is the epitome of volunteerism. Macernie has been a major asset for Albuquerque Pride for years holding many titles including President and now Vice-President of Public Relations. His introduction into the community is pretty much what you would expect. He “started by getting a group of friends together to create a pride float.” When it came to his childhood, Neil found it difficult. “It was very challenging as a youth,” shared Macernie. “Because you were expected to express yourself a certain way as a boy and people were very mean if you did not.”
When it comes to his advice for LGBTQ youth, it’s simple, “Don't be afraid to express yourself,” says Macernie. “I know it feels like the people in your school life are important, but that's less than a quarter of your life, you have only just begun. Find friends that will stand by you and advocate for you.”
Community Honoree, Renato Estacio-Burdick, Sidewinders & Twist
How did you get involved with the LGBTQ community?
I got involved because of a friend or a need in the community for 25 years now! In the 90s we served on leadership councils, led retreats, and emceed events. In 2011, our drag mother Martinique Toya-Bouvier, was recruiting for a softball tournament for the UCS, and a friend approached us to play on the team. We kept in contact with her for four years. We joined the Board of Directors for the New Mexico Gay Men’s Chorus in 2014, finalizing their paperwork for their 501(c)3 status. We remained on the board until 2018. In 2015, my husband, Michael, and I we took over Sidewinders Bar with the idea of finding a space that would welcome all artists and members of our community. Since then, we have been involved with the local chapter of the International Court System, which we served as Crown Prince XXV and Imperial Crown Princet XXV (first known nonbinary title in the system). I was also Wild Rose to the New Mexico Gay Rodeo Association. Prior to that, I served the Nevada diocese for our church as evangelists for LGBTQ members and for music. We also did outreach through music programs - singing and performing for LGBTQ groups. There was a need for a safe space and opportunities for organizations to raise funds, hold socials, and connect with others in our community. So we opened a cabaret as part of our bar and we get to liaise with over 40 different groups, 250+ entertainers, and overseeing various aspects of roughly 300 events.
What was life like when you were a youth?
Emotionally, life had its ups and downs when we were younger! We would be upset because of the inability to marry, no one would understand; there was lots of loneliness; however, there was one person in high school who was very “graceful” in his mannerisms, but we became competitive with each other, which was silly when you look back at it; we even competed to see who would date a certain “Sara.” We both turned out to be gay and out as adults! We were extremely artistic but also sporty, having run cross-country, being on our high school soccer for 4 years, and hurdling in track and field. We weren't going to let anyone say “gay” or not good enough; our youth was spent being the best we could be. Our outlook wasn’t always positive, but no one knew that. On the inside, there was hurt. On the outside, there were smiles.
What piece of advice would you give today LGBTQ youth?
Life always gets better. Look at where you want to be and do what you want for yourself to be the best person you can. Don't try to control everything in life; some things can't be controlled. Don’t hate and don’t use spite to fuel your actions. Love others, be kind, listen, and be understanding. Be a part of everything around you that helps you be the best you can be, serve the community, and help others judiciously - but don’t expect anything in return. Be grateful and be mindful of those who came before you, and support those who come after you. Nurture good relationships, and never put yourself on a pedestal. We are all equal. We all need love and encouragement. We are your family, and we are here to help you. Remember that united community members can better support each other and our future. Don’t jump on bandwagons that often cause hate and division in our community. Seek to understand and don’t always take action. Sometimes, no action is the best action after a wider lens is used. Be comfortable with who you are. Don't let anyone define you.
Community Honoree, Jax Sugars, TeeN’MPower
How did you get involved with the LGBTQ community?
I became involved with the LGBTQ community when I came out as transgender and started attending events at TGRCNM. Through them, they connected me to Planned Parenthood where I got a job leading the TEEN’MPower program and from there I became heavily involved in the community.
What was life like when you were a youth?
When I was a youth, LGB people were around and I knew a couple of them, but it wasn’t really talked about. Transgender people had low visibility and I didn’t know much about them or anyone who actively identified as trans, which was part of why I didn’t come out as trans until I was an adult. I didn’t see or know about anyone getting bullied for being LGBT, but I also kept to my small group of friends. Mostly, LGBT people were invisible and not talked about.
What piece of advice would you give today LGBTQ youth?
Advice I would give LGBTQ youth is to always be yourself. The right people will love and support you, and even if things are terrible right now, know that it does get better. It may not for a while and it may be a slow process, but it does get better. Never jeopardize your safety without a fallback plan, and only you know what’s best for yourself and what you need. You are strong and brave. Be true to yourself. You can do this.
Community Business/ Organization Honoree, Casa Q
The mission of Casa Q is to provide safe living options and services for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning (LGBTQ) youth, as well as allies, who are at risk of or experiencing homelessness. Unlike emergency shelter programs, Casa Q provides residential and transitional living services in a home-like environment, complemented with comprehensive and individual case management.
When it comes to what piece of advice they would give to today’s youth, it truly follows why Models of Hope was created. “Find a mentor or role model in the broader LGBTQ community who you can relate and look up to. There are a lot of heroes in the international, national and local community who have done great work to earn our rights and freedoms. And if you grew up in a loving supportive home, reach out to someone who hasn’t. And if you lack that love and support, reach out to one of Albuquerque’s many youth-focused LGBTQ groups and find the support every person deserves. There’s a huge community of people waiting to help. Here’s a list: Gay Straight Alliances at most high schools, Common Bonds Under 21, UNM’s LGBTQ Resource Center, NM’Power, and, of course, Casa Q.
Purchase your tickets now to our honor brunch at http://www.myprideonline.com/models-of-hope.html
This summer, Santa Fe is celebrating Pride with a side of Western swagger. Not only will the City Different throw its usual epic Pride parade and party on the historic Santa Fe Plaza on June 28, but it will also welcome the New Mexico Gay Rodeo Association’s Zia Regional Rodeo the same weekend. There’s no better time to visit Santa Fe, and visitors can grab a front row seat for it all with La Fonda on the Plaza’s “Ride with Pride” hotel package.
With the special limited time offer valid all of Pride Week (June 24-30), guests can toast one of Santa Fe’s legendary sunsets on La Fonda’s rooftop with complimentary welcome cocktails, luxuriate in one of the hotel’s artfully decorated guestrooms, and enjoy complimentary breakfast (blue corn piñon pancakes, anyone?) next to the soothing fountain in La Plazuela restaurant. On Pride Day (Saturday, June 29th), they will be ideally positioned to watch or march in the Parade which passes right by the hotel’s front door. Guests will receive a special discount to Zia Regional Rodeo performances on Saturday after the Parade or on Sunday. The event attracts the top 20 cowboys and cowgirls in each of 13 different rodeo events and serves as a qualifier for the World Gay Rodeo Finals in Scottsdale, AZ in October 2019.
Guests arriving in town earlier can even use discount vouchers provided in the package to learn the fine art of chute dogging, flag racing and more at the New Mexico Gay Rodeo Association’s Rodeo School on Friday, June 28th. All rodeo events are animal-friendly and take place under safe guidance at the Rodeo de Santa Fe Rodeo Grounds at 3237 Rodeo Road in Santa Fe.
Package prices begin at $342 per room per night and include:
PRIDE & Equality 2019 - The Minor Details: How to Win the Next Election By Not Feeding the Mainstream Media What It Wants
When confronted by members of the national corporate media, people seem to be flattered by the fact that someone is asking them for their opinions. There’s an element of ego-stroking, even for the most upper-level politicians, when a well-known reporter or commentator considers them important enough to ask them a question.
What this means is that some people feel they must answer questions in a media world that’s looking for fifteen-second sound bites, a 24/7 corporate cable-news driven media that is looking for controversy, especially anything that will fit their current meme: “the Democrats are in disarray.” (I’m not talking about the thoughtful, dedicated, low-paid, usually local reporters that work hard to get their stories right and with some nuance.)
What surprises me is how some of the top national Democratic personalities fall for this and cooperatively stir the pot. I’m not sure why leaders do this so regularly, but am convinced that in doing so they’re isolating many who would otherwise work for, and get out to vote for, Democrats, splitting the vote further, and making it easier for the current presidential office holder to win a second term.
There must be some highly-paid and highly regarded, old-boy consultants encouraging Democrats to do this in spite of the fact that it hasn’t brought the kind of consistent success in presidential elections that a party with the best middle-class policies should have. And in 2016 it brought us the current mess.
We can’t change the minds or win over the 20-30% who are authoritative personalities and religious addicts. They need an egotistic dictator for president no matter how those media pundits continue to act wise by repeating that Democrats must appeal to them. Trying to do that turns off a base that is more likely to vote if enthused.
So, not that anyone listens to me – I am refusing to get into the destructive online candidate criticism game at this point -, here are just some principles that will control the national media and ultimately bring out the wide spectrum of people that make up potential Democratic voters.
Ominously, from what I’m reading, this is already counter to what Democratic leaders, and some of the rest of us, are doing.
Don’t answer questions about what you’re going to do unless you’re a presidential candidate talking about policy proposals you plan to implement when you’re in office.
Whether it’s impeachment or investigations, keep the opposing party and the media guessing. They don’t need to know, but answering these questions diverts the discussion to where the media loves it - the debate itself and the disagreements, rather than focusing on the crimes and offenses of a current administration.
All questions should be answered with “Everything is on the table.” Message discipline is important here.
This can be repeated without explanation. And, actually, it should be the truth because the issues are complex so we don’t know what will develop.
Never put down another member or a branch of your party publicly.
Ronald Reagan popularized an “Eleventh Commandment: Thou shalt not speak ill of any fellow Republican. It's a rule I followed during that campaign and have ever since.”
It’s good advice today as well. As a Party leader, don’t publicly make any statements that put down the leftists or centrists in the Party.
Every elected official has a constituency. By criticizing that person, you’re dissing all who voted for them and probably losing influence over them forever.
This means don’t give advice to the Party that it’s going too far to the left. That’s not taken as constructive or valuable just because one of the Party bigwigs says it. To believe that you saying it is going to change those others is hubris.
Such putting down others is instead taken as something meant to stifle free thinking, something that tries to get everyone to fall in line behind some great leader. It only impresses those who already agree as well as those who are authoritative personalities – most of whom are stuck in the other Party.
Refer instead to the “exciting variety of opinions in the big tent of Democrats who encourage free and creative thinking.” Talk about the “wide field of talent” available for the primaries while the other Party is moribund and stuck.
Allow the primary process to go forward. To try to manipulate it with putdowns manifests fear that the majority doesn’t actually agree with you. That’s playing the Republicans own shameful game of voter intimidation and disenfranchisement.
Speak as if you believe in what you’re doing and as if you can do it.
Everyone knows that things come up that mean our plans must be adjusted. But in this day and age, people want forceful leadership not ifs, ands, and buts.
Impress us with bold ideas that express your values. Talk as if you really believe in them.
That’s what will convince us that you do believe in them.
Everyone remembers the phrase “It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve” but few can recite an equivalent from the other side. Was it because liberal ideas were so loaded with qualifications?
Or was “Hate Is Not a Family Value” scared out of us because some right-winger responded: “Are you accusing me of hate?” And we couldn’t take someone disliking us?
Sometimes doing things incrementally will have to be done, but don’t let us think that your incremental change is all you’ve got. If you really mean it to be incremental, let us know where you go after that.
Assume that what you hear online and in social media is meant to divide potential Democratic voters - even if the story is true.
We know that foreign influences are not only spreading falsehoods and interpreted stories to targeted folks on social media but that they’re also targeting Democrats with reputable stories to affect those demographics of social media.
Spreading these stories, even if true, might feel just and righteous, but doing so aids in their divide and conquer strategies and separates us from those we want to influence. Few candidates’ followers are going to be changed, especially if they already know whom we support.
Promote your own candidate or candidates, if you have made a decision, but remember that the goal of the other party and its foreign bots is for us to pass along negative stories about the others. Analyses have shown that negative campaigning does not gain support for your candidate but only discourages others from voting at all.
And sometimes all of us (even our leaders) need to remember: the best thing to say is nothing.
Robert N. Minor, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus of Religious Studies at the University of Kansas, is author of When Religion Is an Addiction; Scared Straight: Why It’s So Hard to Accept Gay People and Why It’s So Hard to Be Human and Gay & Healthy in a Sick Society. Contact him at www.FairnessProject.org.
The third annual 4.9K CommUNITY Rainbow Run is scheduled for June 8, 2019. The event is presented by Orlando Health and Nike and produced in partnership with the DeVos Sport Business Management Program at the University of Central Florida. Proceeds raised will benefit onePULSE Foundation.
The run follows a special 4.9K course and includes a “Remembrance Journey” that will guide runners past the Orlando Health Trauma Center and onto the Pulse site – the same distance covered by victims in the early morning of June 12, 2016.
In addition to the opening of registration, the design of this year’s participation medal has been released. Designed in partnership with Walt Disney World Resort, the front of the medal features the iconic onePULSE logo as the zero in 2019 with a rainbow feature. Etched on the back of the medal is a pair of angel wings with 49 feathers in honor of the 49 Angels, and it includes the quote, “We will not let hate win.” The medal will hang from a white lanyard that includes 49 doves also in honor of the Angels.
“We took great care in the design of the medal as it was important to recognize that the event is about reflection and remembrance, yet we wanted to have the medal reveal a feeling of celebration, hope, and to look forward together as a community,” said Steve Carsella, Senior Art Director with Yellow Shoes Creative Group at Walt Disney World Resort.
“We are touched by the thought put into the design of this year’s medal,” said onePULSE Founder, Barbara Poma. “Yellow Shoes has created something that truly honors the 49 Angels and that race participants can wear with pride. We are so grateful for the opportunity to work with them on this piece.”
The event, which had its inaugural run in 2017, was developed by students in the DeVos Sports Management Program at the University of Central Florida. In its first year, the event included 800 runners. Last year, 2,300 runners participated both in Orlando and through the virtual run option. The virtual run option will again be available this year.
The early bird registration fee is $40 through May 1st. Registration will then be $49 through June 7th and $60 the day of the race. For more information – and to REGISTER for the 4.9k Rainbow Run, 1K Kids Fun Run and the 4.9K Virtual Run -visit https://www.communityrainbowrun.com.
PRIDE & Equality 2019 - To Your Health: TAKE A HIKE! Spring into a Healthier Lifestyle through Hiking
In an age of trendy fitness studios, high-tech workout trackers and expensive personal trainers, it can be easy to forget that the simple act of hiking is an exercise powerhouse. However, scientific research and health professionals alike agree that hitting the trails is advantageous for all aspects of physical fitness.
In fact, studies like a 2015 report out of Stanford indicate that hiking also provides mental health benefits. The study found that time spent in nature calms the portion of the brain linked to mental illness and reduces the mind’s tendency towards negative thought patterns.
The hiking movement in America is out to teach people that they don’t need a gym membership to improve their health; they just need a hiking stick. Warren Owen, Director of Brazos Walking Sticks, is a huge believer in this cause and his company is doing their part to spread the message of the health benefits of hiking
“My company creates hand-crafted, high-quality, made in the U.S. hiking and walking sticks. We believe that any chance to breathe in fresh air while hiking can help cure what ails you,” explains Owen.
Owen continued, “Much like falling into routines in the gym, the same terrain can start to limit the impact of hiking workouts. The more parks that are explored and the terrains vary, the better the health benefits will be. It also helps that the hiker gets to explore more of America’s natural beauty!”
Hiking lowers your risk of heart disease and improves both blood pressure and blood sugar levels. Varied terrains make it possible to improve cardiovascular performance, increase endurance and tone muscle. Brazos Walking Sticks is a wonderful tool to
To learn more of Brazos Walking Sticks visit https://www.brazos-walking-sticks.com/
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